I feel like a lot of us are reflecting during this time, when the whole world seems to be holding it’s breath waiting for the Coronavirus to do what ever it’s going to do. Many of us are practicing social distancing and spending a lot of time at home. I’m sure a lot of us are thinking of what we really want out of life and maybe even of starting that thing we never quite had time to do. I thought this was a good time to share my tips for manifesting the life you want.

3 years ago a good friend of mine introduced me to a video that got me on the path to changing my thoughts, which helped me to change my life. My life today is the life that I always dreamed of but never thought was possible. I get to work from home. I get to travel the world. I make more money than I ever previously thought I could make. My friendships are flourishing and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. It didn’t come without it’s challenges though. I’m only human after all and it’s so much easier for humans to be negative, angry, fearful and jealous than it is to be optimistic, fearless and have faith that things are always working in your favor. A year in a half ago, I wasn’t happy with my job. I loved my jobs in spurts. I was working 45+ hours a week as a Doctor of Physical Therapy in a private practice. The job can be very physically and mentally draining but I loved that I was able to help people. In fact, helping people was best part of the job. I didn’t enjoy arguing with insurance companies.

I didn’t enjoy when my elderly patients I’d grow close with would die. I didn’t enjoy the arthritis I’d developed in my fingers, hands and wrists at age 30. I didn’t enjoy all the bureaucracy with healthcare and health insurance. I just wanted to help people but was way too fearful to ever think about quitting my well paying, high status job. I cheated and asked for a day off to pursue more of my passion project, this blog. I thought I deserved to do something that would make me happy. That lasted for all of a few months before I was asked to take a pay cut and that lead me where I am today. The universe or God or whatever you have faith in has a way of putting you on the path to your purpose no matter what road you take. No matter how much you try and fight it, talk yourself out of it or push it to another time in your life. There’s a little voice in your head and in your heart that tells you exactly what your purpose is…whether you listen to it or not is up to you. Here are my 5 Tips for Manifesting the Life You Want. 

EVERYTHING STARTS WITH YOUR THOUGHTS

I credit my dear friend Rose with helping me to change my negative self-talk. For a few months whenever we were together and I’d say something negative she’d point it out and suggest a better way to say it. For instance, I’d say: I can’t afford this. She’d say: Well if you put that in the universe you will never be able to afford it. So instead say: One day soon, I’ll be able to afford anything I want. It took about 4 months of her correcting my words before I’d catch myself doing it in my mind and before I’d even say it, I’d change the thought to one of positivity and optimism. It took a full year for it to stick. Like I said, it’s much easier to be negative.

It’s much easier to let fear lead your life and have a mindset of lack instead of abundance. Your brain is so powerful. You become what you think. So if you think you’re not good enough, you won’t be. If you think you can’t achieve great things, you won’t. I wrote on my mirror in red lipstick that I am worthy. I read that every single day for a year. Which means I said it in my mind every single day for a year. You read something enough and it just seeps into your being. I still have moments where I let negative self talk creep in, I’m not perfect, but I don’t stay in that place for too long. Think better thoughts about yourself and about other people. 

WRITE IT DOWN

Goals are easier to obtain if you know what they are. You can have all the thoughts of what you want to do in the world but if you don’t write it down, you might forget! I have a list of goals for the year. I have smaller goals for every month. I have them all written out and in places where I can see them every day even if I’m not reading them. That’s a great way to remind you subconscious of those goals. I also take great pleasure in crossing things off my lists. I guess that’s just the very Type A weirdo in me. Writing is a form of self care to me. It’s a form of therapy. It’s a great way to clear your mind. If you suffer from anxiety like I do, journaling is a great way to be present, to get thoughts out of your head, to let go of burdens and to release that old energy to make way for new energy more in line with where and who you want to be. 

STOP COMPETING

This was one thing, especially in blogging that was never really an issue for me but that I know is a huge issue for a lot of people. There is enough for everyone. There is enough space for everyone. There are enough lanes for everyone. There is immeasurable abundance in the world. There’s so much abundance that our minds can barely comprehend it. Someone’s success is not your failure. Following someone’s playbook will not insure the same results for you. Jealousy is normal but it’s one of the ugly things about human beings. Being jealous takes so much energy. Use that energy to make yourself better. I’ve always known this but it wasn’t until I was out of having a lack mentality that I understood how hard it is to be freed from that thinking. Being jealous does nothing. It solves nothing, so just stop. When you find yourself thinking: Why did she get that trip, that campaign, that proposal, what’s so good about her?

Change those thoughts to: she deserves those things and I am genuinely happy for her. Even if you don’t mean it, say it in your mind anyway. That let’s the universe and your mind know that you’re changing and opening yourself for those good things as well. Like anything else, for it to become a habit you have to practice it regularly. It’s also imperative to remove yourself from people who think this way. You are the company you keep and if you surround yourself with people who are negative, jealous and operating from a place of fear and a mindset of lack it’s easy to fall back into that space. I’m in competition with no one. Honestly, I’m so focused on building my brand and fulfilling my destiny that I don’t have time to care what anyone else is doing. I also know that what’s for me is for me and won’t miss me. A win for anyone in my life is a win for me. You get out of life what you put into it.

EVERYONE WON’T BE ON BOARD

This is just the fact of life. You know those people I spoke of who operate from a place of fear, meaning most of the decisions they make in life are based on the fear of something not happening or happening unless they do that thing. Those people usually also have a mindset of lack, meaning they don’t think there is enough for everyone. Those are usually the people who will have a lot to say about you following whatever dream it is you have because you are operating in the 10% of people who are not ruled by fear. You are stepping out of what 90% of humans do and that is foreign to them. Sometimes it makes them scared for you and to protect you they say things like: I don’t know if you should do that. I don’t think that’s going to work out. Blah Blah Blah. It’s not their fault. This is how most humans operate. They don’t know that there are no constraints on what can be achieved in life. They are too busy being prisoners of their self made confinements to be happy for you. There are people who will be jealous and will say nasty things about you, simply because you’re doing what they’d only wish they could do. Wish those people well and do you anyway. Let them watch while you live out your dreams. Hell your life may flash before their eyes when they die but you’ll die with no regrets.